The As-If Principle and Change Happens

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I’m reading and loving these books: The As If Principle, by Richard Wisemen (Even his name inspires confidence!) and Change Happens, by Avrum Weiss.

I’ve been struggling between Trying Harder and Not Trying So Hard. You can read more about that here:

Here’s my interpretation and application of the As If Principle: I will be happier if I:

Treat others as if they are beloved children of God who are doing their very best with the circumstances they’ve been given.

If I approach my tasks as if they’ve been ordained of God and they are what God would have me do.

I will be more successful if I:

Write each blog post as if it will go viral and inspire millions of people to do good and be good.

Write each book as if it will be a bestseller and will inspire millions of people to be more loving to their families, friends, and neighbors.

I will be healthier if I:

Treat my body with reverence as if it will serve my spirit for eternity.

Of course, some of these applications are just reminders—things I already know but often forget in the busyness of my days. When I’m mad at the cable guy, or I’m over-charged at the store, or someone has let me down again, it’s easy to forget that person is a divine child of God.

And when I’m cleaning out a toilet, or cleaning up after my dog, it’s easy to forget my work is important in the grand scheme of things.

And there’s nothing reverent about a cookie. But sometimes you just want one. I’m still wrestling with this.

I’m loving the book Change Happens, because I’ve been stuck in the Trying Harder or Stop Trying So Hard debate. It’s interesting to me, because I definitely saw the Stop Trying So Hard work for me.

When I co-wrote my book Telling Tales with Greta Boris, I had very low expectations for it. I thought it would be fun, but I didn’t think it would be something many people would be interested in. After all, it’s about middle-aged church ladies in a small town. But now that’s it’s finished, I love this book. (Of course, I love all of my books, but this one surprised me.) Every one of my beta-readers has said it made them cry and laugh. One woman said every woman needs to read this book.

Did this happen because I quit Trying So Hard? My book A Ghost of a Second Chance is a little like this, too. Ghost is the first book I wrote knowing I would self-publish it. My other books were written as a mystery or a romance and had hopes of attracting an agent or an editor. I wrote Ghost for my own pleasure, and it was a free-fall of my imagination. I still love that book because of the joy it brought me.

What if I wrote every book that same way? Would it serve me? My family? Anyone?

I haven’t finished reading Change Happens, so I’m not sure of the answers, not that I expect to find my answers in the book. I think I have to do this work on my own.

How about you? How do you feel about the Trying Harder and the Stop Trying So Hard debate? Have you ever achieved your goals when you Stopped Trying So Hard?

How about you? How do you feel about the Trying Harder and the Stop Trying So Hard debate? Have you ever achieved your goals when you Stopped Trying So Hard?

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