In a large bowl using a hand mixer, beat butter, brown sugar, and
molasses until fluffy, about 2 minutes. Add egg and vanilla and beat until
In a medium bowl, whisk flour, spices, baking soda, and salt until
combined. With the mixer on low, gradually add dry ingredients to wet
ingredients until dough just comes together. (Do not overmix!)
Divide dough in half and create two discs. Wrap each in plastic
wrap and chill until firm, about 2 to 3 hours.
Preheat oven to 350° and line two large baking sheets with parchment
paper. Place one disc of dough on a lightly floured surface and roll until
1/4″ thick. Cut out gingerbread men with a 3″ wide cutter and
transfer to baking sheets.
Bake until slightly puffed and set, 9 to 10 minutes, depending on
the size of your cookie cutters. Let cool on baking sheets for 5 minutes before
transferring to a cooling rack to cool completely.
Repeat with remaining disc
of dough. Decorate with icing and sprinkles as desired.
An Excerpt from The Little White Christmas Lie
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Carson went to the kitchen with every intention of spilling his
story to his family, but the only person he found was his grandmother. She had
her gray hair tied up in a ribbon, an apron over her jeans and sweater, and a
welcoming smile on her face. She held out her arms for a hug as soon as Carson
He gathered her against him, inhaling her warm scent. She always
smelled of vanilla with a touch of cinnamon.
“You know Millie and I aren’t engaged, right?” Carson pulled away
“Of course, darling.” She turned back to her rolling pin and dough
on the counter. “I had rather hoped, of course…but it did seem too good to be
true.” She flashed him a quick smile and a wink. “Did she tell you I had called
After Carson nodded she said, “Why don’t you tell me what really
Carson took a seat at the kitchen table and watched his
grandmother use a cookie cutter on the dough while he filled her in.
After he’d finished, she said, “And now, what are we going to tell
Carson blinked. “We’re going to tell them exactly what I just told
His grandmother tsked her tongue. “No. That’s boring. We need a
“I think Millie would prefer boring honesty,” Carson said.
Using a spatula, his grandmother carefully transported a freshly
cut gingerbread man from the counter to a parchment-covered baking sheet. “I
don’t believe that for one second,” she said. “Have you even read any of her
“Granny, I’m not really her target audience.”
“And why not?” She pinned him with her stare.
He lifted his shoulder. “If things work out, I promise I’ll read
one of her books.”
His grandmother banged her cookie cutter on the counter. “You’re
doing it all backwards. You have to read the book first!” Sighing and shaking
her head, she returned to her cookies. “It’s a wonder you ever made it through
“Romance novels weren’t required reading in the business program.”
“Pity that.” With her back stiff and straight, she moved a few
more gingerbread men to the pan.
“Granny…” It occurred to him that his grandmother might be
distracting him by talking about Millie so that they didn’t have to talk about
the inn’s dismal finances.
She cast him a sly look. “And what do you mean ‘if things work
out’? Could it be that you’ve finally met your match?”
Carson flushed, and his shirt suddenly seemed itchy and too tight.
He pulled at his collar. “I just…”
“Have I ever told you about the first time I saw your grandfather?
Our eyes met and the whole world seemed to freeze and fade like a black and
Although Carson had heard the story many times, he didn’t stop
her. He loved his grandparents, and he longed for a marriage like theirs.
Besides, he didn’t want to talk about Millie. He just wanted to be with her.
“He looked so handsome in his uniform,” his grandmother continued.
“We were at the train station. I was heading for New York City and cooking
school, and he was off for training in Fort Dix.” She sighed. “I miss him every
Carson stood, wrapped his arms around his grandmother, and kissed
the top of her head. “I do, too, Grandma.”
She leaned against him. “I just don’t understand why your sister
has been so unlucky in love.”
“Jackson’s a good man.”
“And your father…”
“Also a good man.”
“But not a prudent one.”
“He’s gone now, Grandma.”
“Don’t I know it,” his grandmother sighed.
Carson wanted to talk about his dad less than he wanted to talk
about anything. “Let’s talk about the inn. I noticed all the rooms are full.”
She perked up. “Yes, I invited everyone I know for the Twelve
Nights of Christmas.”
“You invited…you mean, none of the guests are actual guests?”
“Of course they’re actual guests!” She huffed.
“Is anyone paying?”
He swallowed a groan. “You invited your friends…”
“Yes,” she said, defiance ringing in her voice. “It will be a
lovely holiday season.” She slid a glance at him. “I even got you to come home,
He opened his mouth to deliver a lecture, but she cut him off.
“There’s going to be sleigh rides, a cookie exchange, a toy drive for the
homeless shelter, a singalong, a craft fair, and a reenactment of the
“And who’s paying for all this?”
She kept her back to him. “None of this is going to cost a dime.”
“Granny! Who’s paying for the cookies? The hot chocolate? Don’t
tell me you planned on inviting the town and everyone you know without feeding
She spun around to face him, holding the rolling pin aloft. The
look on her face told him that she wanted to smack him with it.
“I know the date,” Carson said through clenched teeth, “but do you
understand that you have to live within the budget I created for you?”
She tilted her head to the side. “There are so many lonely people
out there. And the children in the shelter—don’t you think that they’d like to
see Jed’s camels?”
“Camels? Jed? Who’s Jed?”
“Jed Forester. He bought the Nelsons’ farm and opened up a camel
ranch. Did you know that camel’s milk is considered a power food? He ships his
camel milk products all over the world! It’s really something. He uses the milk
to make shampoo, face cream, lip balm—”
“What do the camels have to do with the inn?”
“Well the wise men are going to be riding them, of course.”
“Of course.” Carson took a deep breath, feeling particularly unwise.
When we lived in Connecticut I had a good friend who bought a derelict Victorian carriage house in Greenwich. A carriage house is, or was, basically, the garage of the manor house. A carriage house is where the carriages lived. In this case, the manor house, a monstrous mansion had become a retirement home, and the surrounding acreage had been subdivided into tract housing sometime in the fifties, leaving my friend’s carriage house sharing the lawn with the retirement home. My friend’s house was a lovely brick and Tudor building without electricity and outdated plumbing. Over the years I watched my friend turn a mess into a beautiful home. And from watching, I learned a lot, like where to buy fabric, how to refinish cabinetry, how to reupholster furniture, but I think the most important thing I learned about was the notebook. My friend had a notebook and each room in the house had a section in the notebook where she had fabric swatches, paint samples, and most importantly, a picture of what she wanted the room to ultimately look like. I spent a lot of time at antique stores and estate sales with my friend and the most impressive thing about her was even if she found something that she loved, if it didn’t fit or go or work in a particular room or space, she passed it up…even if she loved it. I think that this theory can be widely applied in all areas of my life. In my writing: if I have a story and I know where the story is going, even if I have a great idea, even if I have a witty, clever bit of dialogue, or even if it’s a sky-rocketing kiss—if it doesn’t belong, fit or work in my story, it has to go. I don’t have room or time for tangents. I can’t slow the story down for detours. I struggle to apply this same principle to how I spend my days. If I know what I’m trying to achieve, if I really have a picture in my mind of what needs to be done, even if something looks enjoyable or delicious, if it distracts me from my goals then that’s exactly what it is—a distraction—and how much time I waste trying to make it fit, work or belong is ultimately up to me.
Interesting side note: my friend died a couple of years ago. Shortly after her death, I was planning a trip to New York. One Sunday morning while I was sitting in church in the nursery with the under age-three crowd and thinking of my upcoming trip, the address 21 Bishop Street popped into my mind. It was so random and unexpected that I Googled the address when I got home. Sure enough, it was my friend’s house. I hadn’t lived in Connecticut for nearly thirty years. I have a poor memory. I have to really think to drag out even my own past addresses, let alone a friend’s. And yet, here was her address in my head. I considered going there but dismissed the thought. I was traveling with my daughter and daughter-in-law and they wouldn’t be interested in a trip down memory lane. And what would be the point? My friend had died–she wouldn’t be there.
But, as luck would have it, my daughters’ flight left in the morning, and mine in the afternoon. Still, I didn’t go. As it turned out, my plane was delayed for several hours. I absolutely could have made the 30 minute trip to Greenwich. But why would I? So, I didn’t. Instead, I sat in the airport for five hours, wondering what I might have missed.
“Over the River and Through
the Wood” by Lydia Maria Child, American
Millie sat at the window of her brownstone apartment watching the
shoppers scurry down New York’s busy streets. Headlights, streetlights, and
just-hung Christmas lights sparkled on the slowly drifting snow.
“Merrow,” Byron cried as he jumped into Millie’s lap. He settled
down with a purr.
“It’s just me and you this year.” Millie ran her fingers through
the cat’s thick fur. She tried telling herself she needed the solitude, she
deserved a respite from her demanding career, and she didn’t have the time or
the energy to devote to cultivating meaningful relationships, but the longer she
sat at the window watching everyone else pursue their Christmas with such
purposefulness and pleasure, the more she wondered.
Mothers with children bundled in knitted stocking caps and mittens
juggled shopping bags. Businesswomen in furs swinging their briefcases strode
past. Men sporting red and green ties walked while talking on their phones.
Shoppers carrying colorful, overflowing bags paused at the window displays.
There had to be a few Ebenezers in the festive crowd, but she couldn’t spot
one. Was she the only one wishing that Christmas would pass her by? Leaning
back into her wingback chair, feet propped on the ottoman, she closed her
eyes. It’s just so wrong…
How could she, one of the world’s most beloved romance writers, be
alone for the holidays? Again? She’d taken a cruise to the Holy Land last year,
thinking what could be more spiritually uplifting than Christmas in Bethlehem?
But it had been a tour full of senior citizens complaining about their food and
hotel beds. At least it had been better than the Christmas the year before with
Liam in Monaco.
Refusing to think about Liam, Millie stood, knocking the sleeping
Byron to the floor. He complained loudly while arching his back and stalking
“Maybe this year we’ll just stay home,” Millie announced to no
one, since Byron had twitched his tail and disappeared into the next room.
Her landline’s shrill ring broke the silence. She studied the
phone. She’d been meaning to shut off the service for a while, but just hadn’t
gotten around to it. Or at least that was what she told herself. The truth was,
with her mom’s voice on the answering machine, Millie couldn’t bring herself to
throw it away even after all these months.
Millie listened to her mom ask the caller to leave a message. No
one who really wanted to talk to Millie ever used the landline. Her friends and
business associates always called her cell…well, they usually texted, or just
sent her an email. No one, other than scam artists and telemarketers, called
her landline. Millie stood in the center of the apartment where she’d lived as
a child, waiting.
“Hello? Camille? Hello?” An elderly woman’s voice warbled through
the room. “You probably don’t remember me, but I was a friend of your
Grandmother LaDonna. My name is Joy Baker.”
Joy Baker. Millie didn’t recall her grandmother ever mentioning a
Joy Baker, and that was the sort of name she would have remembered because she
really liked baked goods, and a joyful baker seemed like a good person to know.
“Anywhoo, I was hoping you’d give me a call. I know you are a
writer, and I have a little business proposition for you.”
Millie frowned at the phone, debating. Her head told her that this
happy baker person was probably a crook, but her lonely heart urged her to pick
up the line.
Joy heaved an audible sigh. “I know you don’t know me…but I also
knew your Grandpa Horace and your Uncle George. I run a little inn out here in
Chickory, New York, and, well, it could use some publicity. I just thought that
maybe if you’d like to come and stay—” Click.
The answering machine only allowed a few seconds per message,
which often took callers by surprise. Millie smiled, wondering if this joyful
baker person was on the end of the line, still yammering, completely unaware
that she’d been shut off midsentence.
Millie honestly couldn’t remember her mom, grandparents or her
Uncle George ever mentioning this Joy Baker, or Chickory, but the information
tickled in the back of Millie’s mind. She settled on the sofa and booted up her
Seconds later, images of an upstate village with a church on every
corner popped up on the screen. A springtime shot showed the town green’s
gazebo surrounded by tulips and crocuses. Another image had the gazebo decked
out in autumn’s bright fallen leaves. At this time of year, Millie knew there
would be a blanket of snow. And sure enough, she soon found images of Chickory,
New York, in full Christmas glory. It looked like a picture-perfect place to
spend the holidays…if you had someone to share them with.
Millie closed her eyes against flashing recollections of her
grandparents’ home in upstate New York. Sledding with her bright-cheeked mom
and dad, hanging the lights with her Uncle George, Aunt Helen, and little
The phone again. Millie poised her fingers above her keyboard,
waiting. Once again, her heart told her to pick it up, but her sensible side
said stay put.
“Oh dear,” Joy Baker’s voice floated back into the room, “I must
have been cut off. Now, as I was saying, I have this darling old house that
belonged to my grandparents and their parents before them, and I’ve recently
converted it into an inn. It’s just beautiful, if I do say so myself. My niece,
Lorraine, is an artist and she’s made the whole thing just as cute as a button
from the attic to the basement, but the thing is—” Click.
Millie typed in “lodging,” but the closest place to stay to
Chickory was a Motor Motel fifteen miles down the parkway.
If Joy Baker didn’t even have a website, no wonder her inn was
failing. A place could be cute right down to its cement foundation, but if no
one knew it existed, it would always be empty.
The word “empty” made Millie cast a glance at her calendar. She
had half a dozen parties penciled in, but not one of them filled her with
anything other than dread. And the most dreadful one of all was happening
tomorrow night. The annual Book Bash. Simone Shusterfield hosted it every year
at her Southampton mansion. Simone liked to collect writers and artists the way
some rich old ladies collected designer purses and pedigree poodles. Millie’s
editor had insisted she attend, barring raging illness or a family calamity.
But Millie didn’t have any family…or did she? Her parents, her aunt and uncle,
and even little Midge had long since passed.
Could this Joy Baker count as an old family friend? And could her
failing business be called a calamity?
Millie smiled. Of course, she wrote fiction for a living. She
could make up anything she wanted to. She did it every day. And she got paid
for it. And if she could think of a reasonable excuse to avoid Simone’s party
and not have to watch Liam kiss his beautiful fiancée beneath the mistletoe,
then she would go to Chickory, or just about anywhere.
Ignoring the frantic be-sensible voice in the back of her mind,
Millie pulled up an online map. If she took the early morning train to White
Plains she could rent a car from there and be in Chickory by noon. She didn’t
even have to stay the night. She’d just stay late enough to ensure she’d miss
Her sensible voice tossed out reasons to stay in the city. What
if there’s a blizzard? You could be trapped there for weeks. This Joy Baker
might be a serial killer. Who’s going to take care of Byron if something should
happen to you?
Telling her sensible self to shut up, Millie reserved a rental car
in White Plains. Picking up her phone, Millie shot her friend and neighbor,
Dorrie, a quick text explaining her sudden travel plans. Dorrie’s daughter,
Amber, often cat-sat Byron when Millie traveled for book signings and
conferences. Then she headed for her closet, pulled out her overnight bag, and
dusted it off.
She had to run to catch the nine-fifteen train. With her bag slung
over her shoulder and banging against her side, she slipped into the train
seconds before the doors slid shut. Taking a deep breath, she headed for the
one available seat. At this time of the morning most of the commuters were
students, retirees, and mothers with children.
The only vacant seat was next to a man about her age, early
thirties, with wavy brown hair and a strong jaw. He had a thick dossier in one
hand and a red pen in the other. Unless he abandoned his place on the aisle,
she’d have to crawl over his long legs to get to the window seat.
Their eyes met, and for one small moment, the world around her
froze, like a black and white photograph. The train lurched, sending Millie
onto the man’s lap.
“I’m so sorry,” Millie said, scrambling over him and pulling her
bag with her.
“It happens,” he said, “although not very often. Actually, almost
never unless I’m wearing a Santa suit.”
But something like that had never happened to Millie before, and
she wondered if he had experienced the same time-stopping moment. Pulling down
her navy sweater, she adjusted her pea coat, and to hide her flushed cheeks,
she tucked her bag beneath the seat in front of her, refusing to meet his eyes
again, and wondering what would happen if she did.
“Do you often wear Santa suits?” she asked, finally raising her
gaze to meet his. His eyes, the color of chocolate, struck her again, but this
time the world continued around them. The train clacked away from the city.
Lower Manhattan’s gritty landscape flashed by the windows. Mothers hushed
crying babies. Conversations filled the air.
“No,” he said, his voice thick with humor, “but I will be
“Are you going to work at a mall?” He didn’t look like the plump
bearded guys who sat at Macy’s this time of year.
“No. I—never mind.” In a decided effort to change the subject, he
nodded at the book in Millie’s hand. “My grandmother reads her books.”
Millie flushed with pleasure. She loved hearing from her readers.
“Then she must have excellent taste.”
The man chuckled, his laugh as warm as his eyes. “No, quite the
opposite, in fact. She’s a connoisseur of The Helping Hands Thrift Store. She
loves the hunt and the kitschy.” He wore a luscious camelhair coat that looked
so soft Millie longed to touch it. He had a Burberry scarf draped around his
neck and a gold watch on his wrist. He didn’t look like the sort of man who
frequented thrift shops.
“Sounds like my kind of gal,” Millie said.
His lips twitched. “That sappy writer’s books fill my
grandmother’s shelves and the movie adaptions are all over the Hallmark
station—my grandmother’s favorite.”
Millie bristled and tucked the book into her pocket, praying he wouldn’t
see her picture on the cover-jacket and realize that she was the sappy writer
his grandmother loved.
“What takes you out of the city?” Millie asked, taking her turn to
change the subject.
“My grandmother. She told me she had a Santa emergency.” He sighed
and shook his head. “I hope this isn’t another one of her ploys.”
He nodded. “She’s a schemer.”
“A schemer and a thrift store shopper. I like her already.”
“How about you? Why aren’t you headed to work?”
“Who says I’m not?”
He laughed, and something about the sound filled Millie in a way
she couldn’t describe. It was as if she’d been hollow inside, but this man’s
laugh filled a space she hadn’t even known existed.
“What do you do?” he asked.
Millie’s thoughts spun in circles. Come on, I write
fiction. She thought up something else. “I’m a travel writer.”
She was a writer, and at the moment she happened to be traveling.
Good one. Not really even a lie.
“Oh yeah? That’s great. I love to travel. Where have you been?”
“Hmm, lots of places, of course.”
He smiled. “Of course. But where are you traveling to now?”
“There’s a brand new inn in Chickory, New York. I’m going to check
His face paled, his lips pressed together, and a calculating look
filled his eyes. “Is that so? What magazine did you say you work for?”
“I freelance.” Sometimes.
“Ah.” He cleared his throat, a low, grumbling, unhappy sound. “So,
you’re coming all this way to see a new inn.”
She nodded. “The Snowfield Inn. I even love its name.”
“But will you still love it in July?”
“Why wouldn’t I?”
“When it’s sunny, no one wants to stay in a snowfield.”
She raised her eyebrows. “I think that depends on how sunny it is.
There’ve been plenty of melting hot summer days where I longed for a good
“It’s a ridiculous name for an inn,” he said in a tone that made
her wonder why he should care.
“Do you know it?”
“I’ll be playing Santa there tonight.”
“Yes, we’ll see each other again.”
“I won’t be staying that long. This is just a day trip.”
“You’re going all the way to Chickory for just the day?” He nodded
at her bag. “Then what’s that for?”
“I have my computer and just a couple of things in case I decide
to stay the weekend.”
“So there’s hope.”
“Not really. I’m mostly trying to avoid a party tonight.”
“Not a party person?”
“I like parties, but this one…” She took a deep breath, looked out
the window, and relived the pain. “My ex is going to be there with his
“No, but Liam and I…we’d been together a long time.” She didn’t
know what made her open up to this man with the chocolate-colored eyes. Maybe
it was because she thought she’d never see him again, or maybe it was because
she hadn’t told anyone for so long about how badly she’d been hurt, or maybe
because she just liked the way his gaze touched hers, but she found herself
telling him all the sordid details: the purple panties under the sofa, the
anonymous posts on her writing blog asking her why, if she was such an expert
on romance, was her boyfriend partying with Scarlet McFaye?
“Wait, your ex is marrying Scarlet McFaye?” His eyes widened.
“Wow, just wow.”
“Yeah, I guess that’s what Liam and all the rest of mankind think,
“Hey wait, don’t lump me into Liam’s camp.”
“I can’t believe I told you all of this.” Millie flushed and
looked out the window. “I don’t even know your name.”
He reached out and took her hand, as if to shake it, but he
didn’t. Instead, he held it in his own. “I’m Carson Trent, but tonight, if
you’re still at the inn, you can call me Santa.”
When she didn’t respond, he gently squeezed her hand. “This is
where you tell me your name,” he said.
“I’m Millie Cruise.” But most of the world knows me as
Camille Harper, AKA the sappy writer.
They parted at the train station. Millie had a ridiculous desire
to give Carson a hug, even though she had just met him. Her sensible voice told
her to shoulder her bag, casually wave, turn, and get her rental car, but her
feet shuffled and she stuttered over saying goodbye.
“Are you sure you want to rent a car?” Carson asked. “I’m going
there anyway, and it’s a three-hour drive.”
“That’s really nice of you, but how would I get back?”
“You ride back with me on Sunday night.”
“Mmm, no.” For once, she agreed with her sensible voice.
“Do you know how to get to Chickory?” Carson asked.
“My phone does.”
“Of course.” He looked deflated. Taking her hand, he said, “If I’m
lucky, I’ll see you again.”
She left her hand in his. “Do you believe in luck?”
Pain flashed in his eyes. “Not really. Do you?”
“I want to…but it often lets me down.”
“Then let me give you my card, just in case you…” His voice
trailed away, but after he cleared his throat he added, “In case you need
anything, or get lost.”
“Thanks.” She scanned the card. It was heavy, cream colored with
bold navy print. Carson Trent, Principal, Trent and Tavenor Investors,
Your Business Partners. She pocketed the card and thought about giving
him hers, but quickly changed her mind.
Her sensible voice told her she couldn’t hide her identity from
this man forever, but Millie was getting pretty tired of her sensible voice.
Besides, she knew that the chances of her ever seeing him again after today
were very small.
Why do you think that? a
less sensible voice demanded to know. After all, they both lived in New York.
Why not meet? Why not date?
Millie shut down all the voices in her head, because she now
realized they had all stopped being sensible the moment she had first seen
“Nice meeting you,” she said, tightening her grip on her bag and
We all know them, those amazing, loving, caring people who wear their damp shoulders proudly and are on the constant look out for someone who needs a good cry. These are the knights in shining armor on the white steeds, the heroes leading the charge into the fray, or Mrs. Jellyby.
You don’t know Mrs. Jellyby? She’s a character in Charles
Dicken’s Bleak House who was so busy raising money for blind children in
Africa that she couldn’t see or attend to her own neglected children and
We’re supposed to be regaling the virtues of do-gooders, not applauding the sadly delusional…
So, what is a Florence Nightingale personality? They are the polar opposite of a fair-weather friend. A fair-weather friend is a sunny yellow personality who loves to have fun and doesn’t have time for anyone with a crisis, illness, or hardship. If your house is burning down, they’re only interested in joining the fire brigade if they’re going to somehow benefit. A Florence Nightingale, on the other hand, will be passing out the buckets and manning the hose.
No doubt, providing service—doing for others what they cannot do for themselves– is not only admirable but good for the soul. And “going about doing good” (Acts 10:38) is exactly the life Jesus exemplified. In fact, He told us, “Inasmuch as ye have done it unto the least of these, ye have done it unto me,” Matthew 25:35–45.
But even the nonreligious believe in the power of providing service and charity. It boosts self-confidence and moral. Volunteering can act as a coping skill, allowing you “escape other pressures,” reports Lea Winerman of the American Psychological Association. Poor or decreased self-esteem is often the result of abuse or feeling underappreciated. When you serve others, they, in turn, appreciate you.
It’s good for the body. According to Stephanie Watson of
Harvard Health Publications, individuals who volunteer on a regular basis are
less likely to develop high blood pressure and other cardiovascular issues.
But what about living day in a day out with these do-gooders who are so busy nursing lame ducks they don’t have time to catch a movie, or take a walk, or just sit and chat? Those people who just really aren’t that interested in you unless you have a drowning kitten to save?
The painful fact of the matter is, you aren’t interesting. And if you’re truly successful, you’re even less interesting to not only a Florence Nightingale, but to a lot of others, as well. There’s truth in the statement “it’s lonely at the top.”
So, what’s the answer? The answer is surprisingly universal.
You love the Florence Nightingale the same as you love the fair-weather friend.
You just love them. Admire them and tell
Accept people as they are and hope they do the same for you.
Shel Silverstein said it best: “How many slams in an old
screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends
how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em.
How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”
The world is full of people, and each person is carrying a
load of memories, experiences, and concerns that make them see the world
differently from you. Even when a person was raised in the same house and has
the same parents and attended the same church and school, they’re going to
approach the world differently from you.
In fact, even you are going to see things differently
tomorrow than you will today. So, given that we can’t even count on ourselves
to behave in a consistent, normal manner, how do we deal? Here are a few
Give up on normal. Nobody is normal. In fact, if
someone was normal—we’d find them odd. And boring. Celebrate that everyone is
unique and therefore, everyone has something to teach us. Whether you’re
learning that you want to be like them, or that you don’t want to make their
mistakes, everyone is a teacher. And if you’re open, you can be the student.
Recognize that you aren’t everyone’s favorite
flavor of ice cream. Not everyone is going to appreciate your quirkiness. That’s
okay. Actually, that’s good, because they are one less person you have to
devote your energy to. Don’t stew over why they may or may not want to sit at
your table and laugh at your jokes. Let them go and find their own crowd.
Let people grow up. Just because your little sister
used to gallop around, toss her hair like it was a mane, answer questions with
a neigh, and act like a pony twenty years ago, that doesn’t mean she’s going to
embarrass you today. (Although, she might.) But we need to allow people to grow
up and out of their immaturities…or accept them even when they don’t.
Be a buffalo and brave the storms. When buffalos
see an approaching storm, they run into it, while cows run away. But because cows
are notoriously slow, they stay in the storm longer…and they don’t live as long
as the brave buffalos. This is a great analogy on how to handle conflict in an
important relationship. Learn how to have those crucial conversations. Say what
needs to be said. Be honest.
Lean into your emotions, but don’t be dominated
by them. When someone close to you hurts you (and they will) or when you hurt
them (and you will), sit with the emotion, study it, and observe it before you
react. Ask yourself, what can I do with this? Where do I want this relationship
to go? Who do I want to be?
Always be the hero of your story. Don’t play the
victim. Try not to be the villain (although, sometimes that might happen, even
when you don’t want it to.) Every moment of every day, you’re writing your life
story. Make it a good one. Fill it with colorful characters. Be the hero who is
not only saving herself but doing her best to help those around her write their
own very best life stories.
And when it all get’s too
exhausting, find a good book, curl up in a corner with a cup of cocoa, and take
a breather until you’re ready to face the world and all its people again.
Kristy Tate is a USA Today
bestselling novelist, a mom to six, a grandmother to many, she has too many nieces,
nephews, in-laws, and cousins to count (mostly because she hates math, but also
because she has a lot) and she tries to love them all. You can sign up for her
Halfway across the parking lot, Robbie stopped and pulled at his bowtie. “I hate these things.”
tie or the gala?” Maggie straightened her brother’s cheap clip-on tie and had a
vivid flashback of decades past to the senior prom where she’d tried to smooth
down Robbie’s cowlick. Balding had long since cured that problem.
prom had also been held at this place, the Rancho Allegro Country Club. It
seemed like a lifetime ago, and yet, here she was with her brother—again—in
fancy clothes. It was as if she was on a spinning wheel revisiting the same
places with the same people over and over again.
he growled. “All these pompous posers looking down on the rest of us peons.” He
thought about pointing out that with his generous salary, he was probably
richer than most of the people attending the party—not to mention in the world—but
since she knew he hadn’t gone into medicine for the money, she pressed her lips
like your costume,” he said, his gaze flicking over her. “The blue wig should
make you look like a smurf or Marge Simpson, but somehow you pull it off.”
fluttered her wings. “It’s beautiful, isn’t it? Tessa made it.”
lips tightened and a closed expression like a hood passed over his face.
don’t you like her?”
never said I don’t like her.”
clam up whenever she’s around.”
shrugged. “It’s weird you’re friends, that’s all.”
nothing like each other. You’re you and she’s…she drives a Mercedes.”
Mercedes isn’t a sin-mobile.”
elbowed her. “Come on, I have to show my face.” As head of the pediatric
department, he was right. He looped his arm through hers and led her through the
parking lot. “Thanks for being my date tonight.”
passed the valets milling around the Teslas and Land Cruisers. Because Robbie
didn’t believe in valets, they had parked in the neighborhood adjacent to the club.
The lights from the party flickered in the distance and a honky-tonk jazz band
began to play.
problem. I love free food.”
smirked and shook his head. “I don’t get you.”
you do.” She slid him a glance. “If not you, then who?”
right. I do get you, but I just don’t understand how you can spend all day around
food and never get tired of it.”
you get tired of saving people?”
but it’s different.”
it’s not. You save people, I feed them. We’re in the same line of work.”
passed the valets—young, lean men in button down white shirts and tight black
pants—without looking at them. Their parents had taught them that trick—never make
eye contact with someone who might expect a tip. Of course, since they hadn’t actually
parked in the lot, they didn’t tip the handsome young men, but Maggie felt
their questioning glances on her back as she followed Robbie up the stairs.
The Lodge, as locals called it, had been constructed for hunting back when
Rancho Allegro had really been a ranch and coyotes and mountain lions were
nearly as plentiful as the bunnies that currently terrorized gardeners. Strange
how the gentlest of the creatures were the ones who actually survived urbanization.
the lobby, several people vied for Robbie’s attention all at once. Maggie, a
baker without food, and therefore a nobody, wandered off to peruse the refreshment
table, not necessarily because she was hungry, but because she liked looking at
beautiful food displays.
had to stop herself from whistling in admiration. The caterers, men and women dressed
in black, moved like perfectly choreographed dancers around the room bearing
trays that looked more like portable art than appetizers. Edible art,
the phrase came to Maggie’s mind and rested there. Could she try and copy any
of this in her bakery?
fingers itched for her phone, but she’d left it at home. She wished she could
take pictures of this. Who were the caterers? Maybe she should skirt around
outside to catch a glimpse of their van. Hopefully, it would have a logo on it.
nose wrinkled when she spotted asparagus spears wrapped in a flakey crust and a
piece of bacon. She would never understand the compulsion to ruin perfectly
good baked goods by partnering them with vegetables.
no donuts?” Tessa, dressed as Florence Nightengale, appeared at her side. “They
should have hired Maggie’s muffins.”
turned and gave her friend a hug. “Maybe next time.” Robbie was right, they
were an unlikely pair. Tall and curvy Maggie dominated over pixie-like Tessa.
Maggie was a red-headed buzzard while Tessa was as blond as Tinker-bell.
nodded. “Robbie said he’d recommend me.”
smiled and said, “that’s great,” but her gaze darted around the room. Was she looking
for Robbie? Or someone else? “The costume looks really good on you.”
flushed and straightened Maggie’s wings. “I love making beautiful things even more
looks great here, doesn’t it?” Maggie said, glancing around.
Tessa said with a touch of pride. “My dad wondered if they were going to cancel
because of yesterday’s earthquake, but the Lodge wasn’t damaged. Thankfully.”
damage at your store?”
I couldn’t take care of myself. How about the bakery?”
lot of rattling pots and pans, but not much else.”
bumped her with her hip. “We’re lucky.”
wished that were true. Maggie’s parents used to say she was their lucky penny,
and she’d always felt that way…until Peter got sick. Sometimes she felt like
she’d been trying to win her way back into Lady Luck’s good favor ever since.
band, playing on a soundstage across the patio, began Conga and a line
took Maggie’s hand. “Want to dance?”
but first let me check my purse.”
winced when she saw Maggie’s old beat-up leather satchel. It matched the
costume like paper bag accessorized a tuxedo, but Maggie refused to be
embarrassed. She loved her purse—she’d had it for nearly a decade. And yes, it
looked like the poor country cousin among all the Coaches and Kate Spades on
the shelf, but she didn’t care.
strolled into the country club and sought out Tessa. Because of her diminutive
size, she was often easy to miss. Most of the guests were wearing masks, but Tessa
had told him she’d be wearing a Florence Nightingale costume. He spotted her dancing
with a tall, blue-haired yet beautiful butterfly.
he was new to Rancho Allegro, he only knew a handful of the guests. His uncle, Tessa
father, was the president of the St. John’s hospital chain and had insisted he
attend. Even though Steven was probably now worth more than his Uncle Jack, it
was still hard to deny Jack anything. The family still kowtowed to the rich uncle…even
when there were, now, richer cousins.
he crossed the patio, something crinkled beneath his shoe. Given the noise—the music,
the chatter, the clattering cutlery—he almost missed it. What was it that
people said about the sound of falling coins—everybody heard it because people
heard what they wanted to hear? A hundred-dollar bill. Steven stooped and
picked it up. Someone must have dropped it.
glanced around at all the bejeweled people in their fancy costumes. Only one
man wasn’t in a costume—although he was wearing a bowtie. Did he think that was
most crowds, someone would be frantically searching for the lost bill, but
here, no one seemed to notice. Still, it had to have been an accident. He held
it up and slowly turned, hoping someone would take note. Someone did. His
take that.” Mitch, dressed as a pirate, moved to swipe it from his hand.
tightened his grip on the bill and shoved it into his pocket, away from his
Mitch complained. “This is a fund raiser. I’m just trying to raise funds.”
tried not to roll his eyes. “If I can’t find the owner, I’ll give this to someone
who needs it.”
hospital needs it, you loon.” He waved his saber at the party. “That’s why we’re
is a hundred-dollar bill. It cost, what? Three-hundred dollars to get in here?
Besides, I already made a generous donation. I’m going to give this to someone
going to give it to…” Glancing around the room, he debated: a valet? One of the
servers? He could wait and donate it to one of the regular charities on his
list: the Red Cross, St. Judes Medical Research, or Orange Wood Foster Homes.
then it would weigh on him and Mitch would harass him. His gaze landed on the
coat check. One scruffy leather satchel stood out from the rest. He strode over
to the bored-looking girl behind the counter.
that purse,” he pointed at the satchel.
one?” Surprise for a moment overrode the girl’s bored expression. She obviously
didn’t think a man in a Zorro cape would be interested in a scuffed leather
satchel. “It belongs to my girlfriend.”
now you’re a liar,” Mitch whispered in his ear.
girl narrowed her lids and tightened her lips. “I can’t give out any of the
purses unless you have a ticket.”
hurried to placate her. “I just want you tuck this into it.” He pulled out the
bill and showed it to the girl. “Can you do that?”
a crazy person,” Mitch said.
like a fox,” Aunt Miriam said from behind him. Approaching eighty, she looked and
acted like someone nearly half her age. Tonight, she was dressed as a flapper. She
snaked her arm around his waist and looped the other through Mitch’s arm. “A
silver fox! How did two of my favorite boys ever grow to be so old and yet so handsome?”
flushed. “The same could be said of you, Mom.”
Aunt Miriam she shook her long cigarette holder in Mitch’s face. “I don’t want
anyone to know I’m old enough to belong to you.” She dropped her voice to a
whisper. “You could pretend I’m your date.”
could,” Mitch said, pulling away. “But I won’t.” He gave Steven the stink eye. “Let’s
can ignore me, but you better not ignore your wife,” Aunt Miriam said, nodding
at the approaching Lydia, who was wearing a Queen of Hearts costume.
audibly groaned, but also grinned.
were lots of things Steven didn’t admire about his cousin, but he did envy him
his long and happy marriage. Mitch had married ten years before him and
hopefully would be married for many years after. Lydia had been good for him.
butterfly he’d noticed earlier approached the coat check and handed the girl
her ticket. He watched as the girl handed the butterfly the beat-up purse that
now carried his one-hundred dollar bill.
gaze met the girl’s.
girlfriend, huh?” the girl asked.
this was a breach of some sort of hired-help etiquette.
Miriam perked up. “Your girlfriend?”
grinned. “Yeah, about that, Steven?”
rubbed his chin and decided to go along with it. “There you are,” he said. “I’ve
been looking for you.”
me?” The butterfly put her hand on her chest. Most of her face was covered by a
jewel-studded mask, but her lips were full, red and her skin creamy and white. Definitely
braced his shoulder, determined to carry through with his charade. “I want to introduce
you to my Aunt Miriam and cousin Mitch.”
butterfly blinked and took Mitch’s extended hand. “I’m Grace,” she said.
on, Grace,” Steven said, taking her hand and pulling her toward the dance floor
and away from his aunt and laughing cousin.
stumbled after him until they reached the dancing couples. “I don’t know who
you are or what you’re thinking,” she began.
silenced her by putting his finger on her lips. “Just go along with me, please.
There’s a hundred-dollar bill in your purse for your trouble.”
he kissed her.
warm lips spread a flurry of emotions through Maggie. Should she slap him? Push
him away? Scream at him…but…oh…was this what kissing was all about? How long
had it been since she’d been kissed like this? Maybe never.
loved Peter. She had loved kissing Peter. But near the end, the kisses had been
so mixed up in grief and pain, they’d just as soon make her cry as curl her
toes in pleasure…like this one did.
must this person think of her? What made him think he could just kiss her like
this? Maybe he kissed everyone like this. She couldn’t be someone special in
his life since he had only just met her…but he hadn’t really met her, had he?
It wasn’t as if they’d been properly introduced.
she’d given him her middle name.
this kiss, though…
really should end it. This was exactly the sort of privileged behavior her
brother and parents were always spouting off about. Rich people who thought they
could do whatever they wanted with little or no regard for who they stepped on…or
this kiss. It was like kissing Clark Gable, or Gary Grant, or…Zorro.
pulled away. She was grateful to see he wore a dazed expression.
touched her lips. “What was that?”
he said, “was worthy of an encore.” And he kissed her again.
time, Maggie, forgetting all about social injustice, leaned in and gave herself
into pleasure. It rocked her world. Shook her to the core. Made her legs shake.
took her a moment to realize that not only was her world rocking, but the lights
stringing above her were wildly swinging. The band had stopped playing. Pillars
bearing lanterns fell with a crash and glass shattered. The hospitality tent collapsed
and one of the curtains fell into an open fire pit.
still Zorro held her in his arms. In fact, he tightened the embrace, making it
more protective than sensual.
lights went out. Women screamed and men shouted. All around her, panicked people
pushed and pulled. Zorro grabbed her hand and pulled her through the chaos. She
staggered after him, barely seeing through the smoke and din.
damp and cold seeped through Maggie’s flimsy shoes as she crossed the lawn.
Zorro took her elbow and steered her through the parking lot, passing the
valets who had gathered into a tight bunch beneath the now catawampus awning.
Here, away from the party, the moonlight shone clearer.
blinked when she realized it wasn’t Zorro who had led her through the chaos,
but her brother.
What the heck?”
stopped and stared at her. “What’s your problem?”
don’t have a problem,” she said.
sound like you do.” He stepped closer. “Who was that guy you were kissing?”
floundered for an acceptable answer and finally came up with, “I don’t know.”
Because I’m not great at housekeeping but I love a clean house, I recently took a class on home organization class from guru, Marie Ricks. I loved it much more than I thought I would. These are my notes.
Only keep what we truly need and trust that the Lord will give us what we need when we need it. Be patient with the process. If you’re right-handed, begin at the right side of a room. Start at the top and work down.
Set up a plan
List every room. List closets, cupboards, drawers, and shelves (in each room). Pull everything out and sort items to share, discard, put elsewhere and keep.
Create A, B, C, and D closets. As are highly visible and accessible and are for usage, not storage. Ds are for storage, usually off-site.
And each closet has A, B, C and D areas. Don’t put anything on a shelf—use containers for the shelves. Create tabs out of duct tape and stick them on the containers so they’re easy to access.
You only need one of everything.
Get rid of everything weak and un-useful.
Aks yourself, do I need it?
Can I get by without this?
What if I need it again?
Who can I bless by sharing? (Be overly generous)
Be objective, ruthless, courageous, and don’t look back.
Put what we use most in the most convenient places
When we have less, we can better bond.
Keep enough, give away abundance
Store useful items.
I came across this scripture, and it took on a new meaning:
And now I would that ye should be humble and submissive and gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering; being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping the commandments of God at all times; asking for whatsoever things ye stand in need, both spiritual and temporal; always returning thanks unto God for whatsoever things ye do receive. … And now, may the peace of God rest upon you, and upon your houses and lands, and upon your flocks and herds, and all that you possess, your women and your children, according to your faith and good works, from this time forth and forever. Book of Mormon, Alma 7:23-26